Guys Don't Play Games

Allow me to break it down for you ladies. Men do not play games. We're not trying to play games with your heart. Most men simply want SEX. What is misconstrued as game-playing is actually the plethora of lies a guy will tell to try to get into your panties.

I suppose the "game-playing" tag applies because women feel guys are "playing" with their emotions. But, as much as I hate to tell you, guys do not see this as a game. A more suitable analogy might be that he sees it as more of a "Hunt" or "Seek and Conquer" type of mission. Most non-committal guys are not trying to "conquer" you in the traditional sense of the word, he really just wants to tap that azz.

The late-great comedian Richard Pryor joked years ago about a conversation he had with his penis. His tool states, "Hey, Rich, we going out on patrol today?" Although he was joking, there is certainly some truth to that. Men are online and offline, patrolling for the pu$$y. Plain and simple. Married men, men in relationships, DL men, the whole nine.

What makes a man so callous in his pursuit of sex? It's the whore-monger spirit that lurks within most guys. The spirit of lust. That does not excuse what he does, of course, but it does offer somewhat of an explanation.

Guys see a woman, online or offline, and if she is physically what he is looking for, his first thought is sex, and how can he approach or position himself to get it from her asap. That is the primary focus of about 80% of guys.

I feel it is my duty to come clean with women, to let you all know where the majority of guys are coming from. A single guy will size a woman up, or peep her from a distance, and in his analysis, he will immediately place her in one of four categories.

Those categories are:

1. I would 'do her' but don't want her as my lady.
2. She's OK, has potential to be my girl, need to see how the conversation goes.
3. Not at all interested, but if she keeps pursuing me, and she's not butt-ugly, or too big, then I might tap that if I have enough to drink. And if I'm totally inebriated then size and looks are less important.
4. She is special, has all the qualities I have been looking for, I want to get to know her better and see where it goes. Even in that scenario, he still won't be faithful to the possibility of making her his one and only lady. Because, if the opportunity presents itself, he will have sex with another woman while he's actually pursuing the girl of his dreams. If some pu$$y comes along, his rationale is, what she doesn't know, won't hurt her.

Sounds harsh, but that is the true reality of the situation. There are ways to avoid this type of Playa, and that is to get to know him, while keeping your panties on in the process.

Get to know as much as you can about his past. As time goes on, he will slowly but surely reveal his true self to you. As you get to know what he's really about, follow your heart, follow your emotions. This strategy of getting to know a guy will be ineffective if you have dropped your draws, because at that point your emotions will be misleading. And please do not consider for one moment that you can change him. Go with your first mind and get the hell out of that situation. If he wants to know why you disappeared, simply tell him,

"I choose to GROW ON without you."

~ Quote from "In The Spirit" by Susan Taylor ~